Powerful Communication doesn’t just Focus on the Transactional, it also Focuses on the Transformational.
Better Communication Must Start Before You Speak
Most communication problems don’t begin with the wrong words.
They begin with what is happening inside us, whether that is fear, frustration, defensiveness or the desire to control others.
This might have happened even after you:
Said the right words, but you were still misunderstood
Remained calm during conflict, but felt reactive inside
Prepared carefully for a conversation that still went sideways
Felt unseen even when you were articulate.
Then you already know.
The problem isn’t vocabulary or elocution.
It’s something else; something deeper.
What is Formative Communication?
Formative Communication starts with the Communicator First.
It’s is a disciplined and lifelong practice that begins from the premise that what you say, do, write and think in your own communication is having a greater impact on you and your formation as a person than any other single element.
What Formative Communication is Not:
It is not a tactic, system or strategy.
It is not a “style” of personality, communication or leadership.
It is not a trick or technique to manage other people.
Why Most Communication Advice Fails:
Most modern communication models focus on external behavior:
Say this, not that
Use these techniques
Follow this structure religiously.
While those tools can help, they collapse under pressure if the person using them hasn’t done the real interior work.
When communication stress rises, people don’t default to technique.
They default to their current level of formation.
That’s why the same advice can work for some people and not for others.
Formative Communication addresses the root of the problem, not just the surface.
What Working with Me Looks Like
This is not therapy or coaching.
It’s not corporate training, scripting or consulting.
It’s not motivational speaking either.
It’s structured development that puts you at the center.
When we work together, we focus on:
Identifying your current communication patterns
Strengthening internal clarity before external expression
Practicing grounded engagement in real situations
Building sustainable relational habits.
The Goal is Simple:
You become the kind of person who brings steadiness, clarity and connection into conversations, even difficult ones.
That shift compounds across:
Marriage
Parenting
Leadership
Teams
Conflict
Everyday Interaction.
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My approach to Formative Communication starts from a simple premise: All human communication is influenced by the interior life of the individual with whom I’m working.
Part of my philosophy is that until at least one person in the exchange is aligned with what is inside them, true communication cannot occur.
I work with those who are willing to start with themselves, trusting that when that happens, conversations will change, relationships can shift and influence becomes something earned, rather than engineered.
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Bachelor of Science with honors in Communication from Southern Utah University
Certificate in Mediation and Conflict Resolution from Northwestern University
Certified Transformational Coach
Founding Partner and President of Multiple Successful Debt Recovery Businesses with over 15 years’ experience
20 years plus professional experience working solely with Community Associations as clients
Former Vice Chair and Lead Editor of the Common Interests Trade Magazine
Former Professional On-Air Radio Personality
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For thirty years, I have studied intensively trying to understand the communication process and what “makes it tick.” I have worked with individuals and organizations navigating complex leadership challenges, high-stakes conversations, conflicts needing resolution and moments where connection and relationships mattered more than winning with communication techniques.
Though I have years of experience in coaching, teaching, training and consulting, I don’t approach these functions as separate roles. They are simply the varied means I use to accomplish a simple goal: to help people think, speak and act with greater clarity and integrity.